I got this story from one of my good friends on her experience with silent birth, and how it went with her three daughters:
We had two births at the birthing center, while discussing the silent birth subject with the midwife, we found that 50% of their clients there request silent births so they were pretty grooved in on what all it all meant. Two of the newer assistants wanted to have more information on what it actually meant to have a silent birth and the history of it so I brought them the Dianetics DVD as well as the Dianetics Modern Science of Mental Health book. I tabbed a couple of parts on pregnancy and on preventive Dianetics. Both of them were very appreciative to have the “back story” and thus were able to help the clients that much more.
During the labor of our 2nd child, my husband was just a doll and just stood by my side while I was going through the labor. The midwife was also very quiet. She was out of the room most of the time which was very fine with us. Now, I found the labor & birth experience very painful and indeed expressed this pain in any and all manner humanly possible, but kept all words (and expletives!) out of it. I’m also the kind of person that likes silence around me if I’m in pain, it helps me deal with it better; thus this all worked out well.
When it came time to actually deliver the child, the midwife and I spoke with each other in very short sentences – vital points that were necessary for delivery – as the delivery was very fast (2 minutes from water breaking to baby being born). After the child was born the midwife placed her in my arms and we resumed silence for the at least the next hour or so. After that we kept talking to a minimum, kept lights low, etc.
With the third child, the experience was very similar. We kept talking down to a very minimum, and only to important points. We were also in quite a rush to get the two kids in the car and meet the midwife at the birthing center. And, while the baby was born within an hour of labor starting and 15 minutes of arriving and entering the birthing center, we still kept talking down to a minimum, the midwife as well. And again, after the delivery, the midwife and assistants kept the silence in as much as possible and all talking down to a very minimum, only important necessary things.
I’m sure we could have been spoken less, but we did the best we could due to all the circumstances. The experiences we believe were good. We do feel we provided a good environment for the births of our children.
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