This quote, if you break it up into pieces, represents much of the core of how I’ve tried, as a Scientologist, to approach the topic of parenting. The fuller quote, from L. Ron Hubbard’s excellent essay, How to Live with Children:
“The main problem with children is how to live with them. The adult is the problem in child raising, not the child. A good, stable adult with love and tolerance in his heart is about the best therapy a child can have.
“The main consideration in raising children is the problem of training them without breaking them. You want to raise your child in such a way that you don’t have to control him, so that he will be in full possession of himself at all times. Upon that depends his good behavior, his health, his sanity.
“Children are not dogs. They can’t be trained like dogs are trained. They are not controllable items. They are, and let’s not overlook the point, men and women. A child is not a special species of animal distinct from man. A child is a man or a woman who has not attained full growth.
“Any law which applies to the behavior of men and women applies to children.” – L. Ron Hubbard