One thing that gets overlooked all too often, is the inextricable inter-relationship between one’s relative level of success and stress at work, and how it affects one’s ability to be a good parent and to run a happy household.
In what I’ve seen – all too often the upsets from the day at work massively affect the home: the argument with the boss that’s still hanging around your head all night, the incomplete jobs that take up time that one was supposed to spend with the kids, the wiped-out dad who doesn’t want to have anything to do with the kids when he gets home and just wants to collapse on the couch — these things are problems.
Workplace stress can then hold your attention, keeping you from really being there with your family. It can make you snap in ways you later regret, barking orders at kids instead of talking to them, snippy responses to the spouse instead of good communication – it can have far-reaching effects that influence your quality of life.
Some people don’t realize it, too, but this then can extend into issues with the health of your kids. Just about every parent I know has been able to pinpoint times where kids got sick to times when there was upset in the house.
Big Pharma and Madison Avenue would like to convince you that the solution lies in either
(a) Masking the stressful situation through medication, chemically changing your reactions so that you can be manically “happy” while your life is going to hell, or
(b) Escaping from the problems you face, either by deep-sixing your job and telling off your boss, or by taking a vacation and “decompressing” to infer that time away from a stressful job is the only way to have a less stressful job.
Neither is particularly workable.
In Scientology, the general approach to things involves confronting and handling the root cause of the issue, thereby fixing it permanently. If you’re a parent and are stressed out about work – the thing to do is HANDLE THE PROBLEMS OF WORK.
That one chapter (The Anatomy of Control) is profound enough that its application alone is enough to remove mountains of workplace stress. Additionally, one’s ability to run good control on people means everything to then be able to have a sane household as well. I’m sure you’ve seen someone who has a complete inability to control children. They’re running all around, crying, yelling, melting down, and the person just can do nothing except yell at them or physically move their bodies.
That’s bad control.
Learning to practice good control is, in and of itself, something that can remove anxiety, stress and confusion from one’s environment.
If this is something that means anything to you, I’d take the time to either grab The Problems of Work from your local library, or snag a copy of the DVD, and give it a watch. I’m positive it’ll at least point you in the right direction for a better home and work environment.