Your Spouse is NOT the Enemy

The Pleasure of Sleeping on the Beach
In all this family business, it’s good to remember who the good guys are.
Yes, parenting can be stressful.  Especially given trying circumstances like new jobs, schools & schedules, sick children (or multiple sick children, to up the skill level on you), terrible twos, terrible teens, finance issues, sometimes one just feels like yelling from all the stress, and some (unfortunately) turn to their spouse.
Just a tip, though, from LRH:

“A teammate is someone who assists the overwhelming of the enemy. Aberration is mainly the overwhelming of teammates (wrong target).When one views life as a complexity of attempts to overwhelm, he begins to understand it rather well. Two people may be playing many games, some between them, some with others. They are opponents in some things, teammates in others. They succeed in the ratio that they can define their games AND overwhelm the proper enemy for each game. Marriages fail only because the games get confused between husband and wife.”

– L. Ron Hubbard
Professional Auditors Bulletin 80 – Scientology’s Most Workable Process

Offers quite a bit of food for thought in and of itself.   Are you doing things in the family that are helping the family overwhelm its enemies?   Or are you trying to overwhelm your spouse?

Need ideas on brushing up your marriage?  Have a look at the free Scientology Marriage Course, available online here.

 

 

3 thoughts on “Your Spouse is NOT the Enemy

  • October 6, 2011 at 2:05 pm
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    Thanks for this reminder! Since having our baby, now 3 months old, I’ve felt at times like my husband was the enemy and treated him like that much too often. But this past week I returned to week and he has been wonderful. Really helping me to get out the door in the morning, keeping me fed, keeping on daughter fed (helping with storing pumped milk, etc) and being my sounding board when I’ve been upset about things. Having a new baby is trying for any marriage but I see now that WE are the team helping each other through all of this. There’s no way I could do this without him.

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  • October 6, 2011 at 6:21 pm
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    This is such a valuable post! As a parent consultant I can honestly tell you that it is very important to keep in mind that it is you and your spouse and your child working to overcome the problem areas not thinking each other are the problem areas and attacking each other. “You and me against the world” thing. It definitely takes a team to make things work and sending the exact correct communication to the proper person, when needed and wanted.

    The children always benefit from this. Trust me!

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  • October 9, 2011 at 1:27 am
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    Thank you very much for this post. It is true, sometimes I confuse my husband with the enemy. I need to go back to treating him as a team member – he is a wonderful and very helpful husband. I love him so much.

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