The Adult is the Problem in Child Raising, Not the Child


This, to me, is one of the more excellent passages in the book Scientology: A New Slant on Life – from a Chapter entitled, “How to Live with Children.”   Literally, a whole discussion could ensure on every line of this excerpt.  I don’t know about you, but I can think of a whole fountain of examples:

“The adult is the problem in child raising, not the child. An adult has certain rights around children which children and modern adults rather tend to ignore.

“A good, stable adult with love and tolerance in his heart is about the best therapy a child can have.

“The main consideration in raising children is the problem of training them without breaking them. …you want to raise your child in such a way that you don’t have to control him, so that he will be in full possession of himself at all times. Upon that depends his good behavior, his health, his sanity.

Scientology: A New Slant on Life“…children are not dogs. They can’t be trained like dogs are trained. They are not controllable items. They are, and let’s not overlook the point, men and women. A child is not a special species of animal distinct from Man. A child is a man or a woman who has not attained full growth.

Any law which applies to the behavior of men and women applies to children.

“How would you like to be pulled and hauled and ordered about and restrained from doing whatever you wanted to do? You’d resent it. The only reason a child ‘doesn’t’ resent it is because he’s small. You’d half-murder somebody who treated you, an adult, with the orders, contradiction and disrespect given to the average child. The child doesn’t strike back because he isn’t big enough. He gets your floors muddy, interrupts your nap, destroys the peace of the home instead. If he had equality with you in the matter of rights, he’d not ask for this ‘revenge.’ This ‘revenge’ is standard child behavior.”


Only becomes more and more real for me, as I raise a toddler who more and more has a mind and will of her own, and an intense interest in exploring life.   What do you think?

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