When trying to sum up how Scientologists approach parenting, folks have tried to compare it to one of the various popularly-packaged styles of parenting that have been making the rounds. Attachment parenting, nurturant parenting, helicopter parenting, positive parenting, authoritative parenting, etc. I can’t say that what I believe fits any of these, so I’ve tried here to sum up the main things that I do believe. Those main things that I hold as chief stable data in how I approach my job as a parent, and I talk about them in the video above.
Now – note that this isn’t an attempt to characterize how all Scientologists approach parenting. But it’s how I approach it, obviously drawing considerably from my studies as a Scientologist.
Summary – with notes for further study:
- Find the Why. As opposed to explain away difficulties or problems with the kids or in the family, find the underlying cause as opposed to a mere explanation. References:
- Video: Investigations – from the Volunteer Ministers free on-line course
- Investigations chapter of the Scientology Handbook
- Article: Don’t Let Them Label Your Children – i.e. explain away symptoms instead of finding a Why
- Set a Good Example. Children are excellent mimics. If it’s something that you want in your children, make sure you’re doing it right yourself.
- Ownership of a child’s possessions. When you give something to a child, it’s theirs. Not yours.
- Understand & use good communication.
- Allow children to contribute in the family.
- Continually better your understanding of the mind & life.